Approaching Women - How to Approach Women

Thu, Apr 24, 2008

You may be the best looking guy around town and can continue to rant on how girls would fall at the sound of your voice but until you take the initiative to approach any lady, whatever you claim will just be claims. The truth of the matter is that most guys are afraid to approach the women that they are eyeing. Especially for guys who have been rejected before, they are afraid to experience another bruised ego if they were to be rejected again.

But are women that hard to approach in real life? Here are some wonderful tips to help you with.

1. Do not hesitate

Women love to see confident guys approach them and seeing they body language of a guy approaching them, they immediately are able to detect whatever you are trying to do. Nervous guys are a turn off for women and not only would you be rejected, it will make you more against approaching a lady in the future as your ego takes a harder hit because of the incident. Keep calm and remain confident, or you would have lost the battle before it has already begun.

2. Keep trying

Thomas Edison did not figure out what material to use for the filament of a light bulb in an instant but he stayed positive and eventually achieved success. Similarly, if you do not succeed for the first time, do not be dismayed! There are millions of other girls that you have yet to approach, so what makes you think that just because one of them rejects you, the other will too? It is important to remain calm and confident and not let yourself be affected by a setback.

3. Have a good topic to converse about

It would be great if you can be able to plan out what you want to do first before you approach the girl you have in mind. It is not enough just to approach the lady, you have to strike up a conversation as that is where you can ‘flaunt’ your flirting skills and also possibly set a good first impression in the manner of your speech, behavior and body language. Try to avoid those cheesy pick-up lines as they put you across as unoriginal and it may be a turn off for the girl. Rather, try to talk about a topic that she can relate to and not just about the weather or what both of you had for lunch. It would definitely impress her to know that you have noticed what she is interested in and you can relate it to your conversation.

4. Humor her

Humor her with good jokes that are actually laughable and not just some cold, lame jokes. Also try to avoid cracking dirty jokes as not all women like them. Some may find it exceptionally funny, but others actually find it degrading and a huge turn off. Would you want to take that chance then?

Approaching a woman may sound easy on paper, but it still takes boldness and courage to walk up to a girl and chat up with her. Practice makes perfect and with each try, you will learn from your mistakes and know what to do or what not to do the next time round.