Are You Single? How Full Is Your Own Life?
Thu, Apr 24, 2008
One of the reasons that I enjoy working with single people is that usually the focus of coaching changes from finding ‘The One’ to making their own lives more fulfilling, inspiring and happy. People realize that trying to fill a void with another person is far less interesting and way less reliable than filling it yourself. Yes, I love to see people finding a partner who makes a difference to their life. I also enjoy seeing someone blossom and become as interested in themselves and how exciting they can make their life as they used to be in finding someone else.
Before searching for someone to ‘complete’ your existence, it is crucial that you have put effort and time in to making your life as full, exciting and interesting as you can. It is easy to get single-minded in the search for a mate and let the rest of your life remain on simmer whilst your search becomes increasingly desperate. If searching for a new partner becomes the focus of your life, what happens to you? What are you doing and who are you being until you find this person?
Answer these questions:
When was the last time you had fun?
What are the things you are really looking forward to in the next month/ 6 months?
What are things you tell yourself you can do WHEN you have a partner?
Write them down. And start doing them now.
Making yourself the focus of your life means that finding a partner often becomes less important and, strangely, you are more likely to find somebody at about this time and not when you are really searching for them.
To all single people, I have a message: find someone to share your happy life and don’t expect someone to make your life happy.
(c) Dr Tara Few, The UK Sex Coach. http://www.uksexcoach.com
I am a sex, singles and relationship coach and I work with people who know that sex is important to them but who feel that something is missing from their sex lives. I can help you to explore your own sexual style, desires and needs. I help people have happier relationships and I also work with people looking for ‘the One’. Connect to the fun and pleasure potential of your sexuality by working with me and you can become a happier and more confident lover. You will update your knowledge, skills and become more accepting of who are you sexually. Contact me on tara@aragoncoaching.co.uk To receive regular tips, techniques, articles and resources about sex, sign-up for my monthly eZine VENTURESQUE using the sign-up box on my website: http://www.uksexcoach.com
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